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By Divas
Someone has to speak the truth, and if I will not, then who will? People often ask me how can I be so sure of myself…the reason I can be so sure of myself is because i’ve always believed that every age has its own set of problems and therefore its own set of solutions…the basic philosophy behind my assumption is that everything in this world is always in a flux…
And one of the most problematic issues of our times is that of sex… Aldous Huxley said about a century ago that sex is the biggest nothing of our time…and I will say that it’s still a biggest nothing of our time…looks like humans would never be able to keep a healthy attitude toward sex…and after hunger, sex is the most basic issue behind human suffering… in this post, I’m illuminating certain basic things related to sex, which everyone knows but very few dare to speak..even the intellectuals speak on these things only within their close circles…but my aim is to release people from their unnecessary suffering by bringing the taboo issues into the public sphere..
Everyone is Sexual:
Everyone without exception is sexual. You know it, I know it. Most of the visitors to this blog come looking for sexual gratification. The Top Post of All Time on this blog is Sex in Kathmandu City, and I’d to block comments on that post coz most of the comments there are solicitations for sex. And you know what sorts of search words bring people to this blog? Here are some of today’s search words for your amusement: i want sex tonight in kathmandu, call girl in kathmandu with mobile number, naked girls and fuck, how can i find nepali prostitute in Kathmandu, is prostitution legal in Nepal, nepali women in fucking business, girl want to be fucked, kathmandu boy sex, women seeking men Nepal…
What does this show? This shows that people are sick with sex. Our films, TVs, news items, advertisements, and internet virtually bombard every human being with contents that arouse your sexual instincts. That’s making people sick. Moreover, unlike in the past, the average marriageable age for both sexes is around 30+ at present…This shows that if you use today’s technology and if you extend your marriageable age beyond puberty, you cannot stick to the conventional morality on sex which assumes that you will get married once you reach puberty.
Sexual Atrraction:
Therefore, there is no need to feel guilty for being sexual. Being sexual means that you’re healthy. And it applies to both male and female, without any prejudice. Sexual attraction can happen between any two people, even among the relatives. Freud is right there. So is Osho. Therefore no need to feel guilty about being sexual.
Sexual Relations:
Since everyone is sexual, there’s nothing moral about sex. What kind of relationship two people are in is nobody’s business.
Sex and Sexual Violence:
Sexual violence is like any other violence, there is no need to make any taboo of sexual violence. Those who commit violence on others suffer themselves. But, you don’t lose your prestige if you’ve suffered sexual violence. What amuses me that even feminists demand compensation arguing on behalf of ‘prestige’. As long as you’re going to associate your prestige with sex, you are bound to suffer.
Therefore, there’s nothing called prestige related to sex. Btw, who’s that fucking thing called ‘prestige’ anyway? As Parijaat wrote in her Sirisko Phool, who’s prestige? no body has any prestige… it’s just that people pretend with each other…
Sex and Society:
However, if you’re not careful, society will put you in many difficulties in life. Because, society is always there to blackmail you with sex. But, remember, sex surely has practical difficulties but if you fear the society, then you’ll always remain paranoid about sex. Let me tell you one truth that I discovered, I’ve found that sex workers are happier than the so-called ‘good girls and women’ because sex workers aren’t paranoid about their false ‘prestige’. And one of the reason why my mother suffered was because she was a ‘good’ woman. So, if necessary, be ‘bad’ and be happy. Because, your happiness is your greatest responsibility. You can do any good in this world only if you’re happy.
Moral of the Story:
So, am I encouraging promiscuity? No, I’m not encouraging promiscuity. As far as possible, keep your sexual experience to a minimum…and you don’t even have to have sexual intercourse for sexual gratification. Masturbation, hugging, kissing, etc would be enough to satisfy your sexual urges. Because, promiscuity has its own set of problems. Besides the possibility of getting sexual diseases, there’re social, interpersonal, and spiritual problems related to promiscuity. Moreover, if you indulge too much in sex, it might interfere with your career and business. Sex is just an energy, just divert the energy through exercise, play, and other creative pursuits.
In any case, there’s nothing to feel guilty or paranoid on any aspect of sex coz there’s nothing moral about sex. Whoever preaches morality on sex, know him/her to be either a hypocrite or paranoid.
PS: Btw, let me tell you one thing from my experience, it’s not even necessary to have sex to live a fulfilling life: love is enough!
I was linked this blog by a friend and had a read. I will comment as I go.
I’m not quite sure what you are searching for here; you say you’re speaking the truth but I think that might be over-generalised and well – who is to say what is true? So as to not get bogged down with too much philosophical speculation though, I’ll continue.
The world is constantly in flux, yes this is good enough, though there are some things that remain quite constant (like the central importance of sex etc), though I might add if the world is important to you, get out there and do some good in it rather than just writing blogs. Also, could you please link me the Aldous Huxley quote?
I think saying that sex leads to suffering is not quite right; desire can lead to suffering, just as hunger can, rather than food or eating itself.
To say that everyone is sexual without question is also questionable at the least considering the amount of people who nowadays identify as asexual. I also don’t think it is appropriate to say that people are ‘sick with sex’ – all your research re: search engines to the blog show is that people want sex in kathmandu!
You also say that people are sick with sex and then instantly reverse that to saying that to be sexual is to be healthy; I’m not quite sure what you’re saying. To say that sexual attraction within families is alright is fine so long as all you continue saying from that is there should be no shame in terms of the attraction. The acts themselves might well be deeply objectionable, if not repulsive. It would be wise to get some data on exactly how many relationships of this kind you have found. As for Freud being right, nearly all of his work on sexuality has since been discredited and it’s very much pop-psychology now.
What you say about virginity doesn’t really amount to very much.
I’m also not quite sure what you’re saying about sexual prestige and what relevance it has for the rest of the piece.
Happiness being the greatest responsibility is a bit of a sweeping statement – there are lots of other things that you ought to be responsible for, such as your health and wellbeing and whether you are developing nicely as a person. It’s all very well being happy but if you’re also a deeply repulsive individual you won’t get particularly far in life.
Saying all of this, I think that we might well be on the same side regarding morality and sex. Morality is something that cannot really impact sex unless you are doing it with people who don’t have any responsibility or say, or those who cannot give consent (for example children, animals etc).
So, an alright piece of work – though I think it could do with a much more rigorous analysis of every piece of information you’re drawing from, as well as draw from much more information. I wouldn’t have commented, but you encouraged it – and I’m always much more of the opinion that constructive criticism is always a valuable thing. I do hope I’ve not in any way offended you.
Coram
Dear Coram,
Thanks for making an interesting criticism. I’d not argue much with you coz i see that mostly you’re using your logic lessons merely for the sake of argument…however, there are some valid points in your argument which i must address.
* You’re rt on the quote. it’s from Andy Warhol, & not from Aldous Huxley. But does it matter who said it: Andy Warhol or Aldous Huxley ?
*What i’m saying is that being sexual is healthy but getting obsessed or paranoid about sex or using sex as a tool for manipulation is bound to be troublesome both for the individuals and the society at large..
*Regarding Freud, i also sometimes find him too obsessed with sex, but still i think Freud has made a great contribution by illuminating & generating a debate on hitherto taboo issues..
Anyway, it’s nice to know that we might be on the same side regarding the basic argument of this post.