‘Hey Uncle, congrats!’
My friend was unashamedly ‘congratulating’ me.
It was his fourth baby.
The elder ones belong to the ‘fairer’ gender.
And i’ve many friends & relatives like him.
Hence, although i didn’t ask him, i was pretty sure that this must be the ‘unfair’ one…a boy.
I know about my friends perhaps more than a friend should know.
For example, I know that my this friend had aborted at one of the cases.
I mean abortion in its exact sense, no metaphors.
I know his wife very well. She’s a descent, sensitive, & also educated( besides other adjs).
I wanted to tease him why he was ‘congratulating’ me for a result for which i’d made no contribution at all.
Their girls are healthy, lovely, & playful.
They easily became freinds with me the very first day i met them…a rare thing indeed. Kids are generally afraid of my ‘villainous’ looks.
Whenever their kids won’t ‘behave’, my relatives threaten with, ‘Do this/that, or i’ll tell Buzi(Monster) Uncle, Mama, Thuloba,..whatever’
And even the devil himself won’t like being addressed like that by the kids.
So, i was naturally very happy when these girls started playing with me.
I told him,’Look after these kids carefully, so that they don’t have to suffer like us.’
Once, when i asked him why were they waiting for a boy, he said, ‘You don’t know, she wants it.’
Everyone knows that the social conditioning wants it.
There are many reports from India that millions of female fetuses are ‘killed’ after identifying them with the ultrasound.
There are no such studies here in Nepal, but anyone can guess with certainty.
Of course, they care for their kids like all parents do.
Yet i know it very well that things would never be the same with/for the girls.
No matter how much their parents would love them, they’d never miss to observe that things no longer remain the same as they used to be.
But, hey feminists & activists, it’d be equally fallacious to conclude that the boy would enjoy being an ‘apple of the eyes’.
Anyway, i’m going to congratulate them all in the boy’s Nwaran(the naming ceremony) tomorrow.
One Response to “i care for my baby,…black or white…”
illnaturedgr, on December 26th, 2007 at 9:27 pm Said:
I think that it’s a total tragedy for all humanity to still have gender issues 5 days before the year 2008…
It’s a reality though and we must face it… Don’t think that only India or Nepal have gender issues,it’s China (which has the biggest problem due to overpopularity),Thailand and lots of other countries (not all of them of the so called “third world”) to cut it short…