There’s Nothing Moral About Sex
Madhav Nepal Enjoying with Spice Girl:
Someone has to speak the truth, and if I will not, then who will? People often ask me how can I be so sure of myself…the reason I can be so sure of myself is because i’ve always believed that every age has its own set of problems and therefore its own set of solutions…the basic philosophy behind my assumption is that everything in this world is always in a flux…
And one of the most problematic issues of our times is that of sex… Aldous Huxley said about a century ago that sex is the biggest nothing of our time…and I will say that it’s still a biggest nothing of our time…looks like humans would never be able to keep a healthy attitude toward sex…and after hunger, sex is the most basic issue behind human suffering… in this post, I’m illuminating certain basic things related to sex, which everyone knows but very few dare to speak..even the intellectuals speak on these things only within their close circles…but my aim is to release people from their unnecessary suffering by bringing the taboo issues into the public sphere..
Everyone is Sexual:
Everyone without exception is sexual. You know it, I know it. Most of the visitors to this blog come looking for sexual gratification. The Top Post of All Time on this blog is Sex in Kathmandu City, and I’d to block comments on that post coz most of the comments there are solicitations for sex. And you know what sorts of search words bring people to this blog? Here are some of today’s search words for your amusement: i want sex tonight in kathmandu, call girl in kathmandu with mobile number, naked girls and fuck, how can i find nepali prostitute in Kathmandu, is prostitution legal in Nepal, nepali women in fucking business, girl want to be fucked, kathmandu boy sex, women seeking men Nepal…
What does this show? This shows that people are sick with sex. Our films, TVs, news items, advertisements, and internet virtually bombard every human being with contents that arouse your sexual instincts. That’s making people sick. Moreover, unlike in the past, the average marriageable age for both sexes is around 30+ at present…This shows that if you use today’s technology and if you extend your marriageable age beyond puberty, you cannot stick to the conventional morality on sex which assumes that you will get married once you reach puberty.
Therefore, there is no need to feel guilty for being sexual. Being sexual means that you’re healthy. And it applies to both male and female, without any prejudice. Sexual attraction can happen between any two people, even among the relatives. Freud is right there. So is Osho. Therefore no need to feel guilty about being sexual.
Since everyone is sexual, there’s nothing moral about sex. What kind of relationship two people are in is nobody’s business.
Sex and Sexual Violence:
Sexual violence is like any other violence, there is no need to make any taboo of sexual violence. Those who commit violence on others suffer themselves. But, you don’t lose your prestige if you’ve suffered sexual violence. What amuses me that even feminists demand compensation arguing on behalf of ‘prestige’. As long as you’re going to associate your prestige with sex, you are bound to suffer.
Therefore, there’s nothing called prestige related to sex. Btw, who’s that fucking thing called ‘prestige’ anyway? As Parijaat wrote in her Sirisko Phool, who’s prestige? no body has any prestige… it’s just that people pretend with each other…
Sex and Society:
However, if you’re not careful, society will put you in many difficulties in life. Because, society is always there to blackmail you with sex. But, remember, sex surely has practical difficulties but if you fear the society, then you’ll always remain paranoid about sex. Let me tell you one truth that I discovered, I’ve found that sex workers are happier than the so-called ‘good girls and women’ because sex workers aren’t paranoid about their false ‘prestige’. And one of the reason why my mother suffered was because she was a ‘good’ woman. So, if necessary, be ‘bad’ and be happy. Because, your happiness is your greatest responsibility. You can do any good in this world only if you’re happy.
Moral of the Story:
So, am I encouraging promiscuity? No, I’m not encouraging promiscuity. As far as possible, keep your sexual experience to a minimum…and you don’t even have to have sexual intercourse for sexual gratification. Masturbation, hugging, kissing, etc would be enough to satisfy your sexual urges. Because, promiscuity has its own set of problems. Besides the possibility of getting sexual diseases, there’re social, interpersonal, and spiritual problems related to promiscuity. Moreover, if you indulge too much in sex, it might interfere with your career and business. Sex is just an energy, just divert the energy through exercise, play, and other creative pursuits.
In any case, there’s nothing to feel guilty or paranoid on any aspect of sex coz there’s nothing moral about sex. Whoever preaches morality on sex, know him/her to be either a hypocrite or paranoid.
PS: Btw, let me tell you one thing from my experience, it’s not even necessary to have sex to live a fulfilling life: love is enough!